Suggested Resources
Couples:
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations For A Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson
How Can I Get Through to You ? Closing the Gap Between Men and Women by Terrence Real
Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships by Sue Johnson
Mating In Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
Tell Me No Lies by Ellyn Bader, Peter T. Pearson and Judith D. Schwartz
The Breakup Bible: The Smart Woman's Guide to Healing from a Breakup or Divorce by Rachel Sussman
The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples by John M. Gottman
The Seven Principals for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman, Ph.D. and Nan Silver
Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum
Infidelity / Betrayal:
After the Affair, Third Edition: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis Abrams Springs
Dear Peggy: Peggy Vaughan Answers Questions about Extramarital Affairs
The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Ester Perel
Families:
Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Dan Seigel
Operating Instructions: A Journal of My Son's First Year by Anne Lamott
Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive by Daniel Siegel and Mary Hartzell
Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child The Heart of Parenting by John Gottman
He’s Always Been My Son (website with resources around gender identity) by Janna Barkin, Author, Coach and Educator supporting transgender, gender expansive and questioning youth and their families
He's Always Been My Son: A Mother's Story about Raising Her Transgender Son (book) by Janna Barkin
Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help your Children Live Together so You Can Live Too by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
Yes, Your Teen is Crazy!: Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind by Michael Bradley
Talking with Children About Loss: Words, Strategies and Wisdom to Help children Cope with Death, Divorce and Other Difficult Times by Maria Trozzi with Kathy Massimini
Trauma:
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk
Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine
EMDR International Association, a resource website about Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy and to locate EMDR trained therapists
EMDR Videos:
Introduction to EMDR Therapy by EMDR International Association
What is Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing Therapy? by Psych Hub
EMDR Therapy: Understanding Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing by The Lukin Center
EMDR Therapy: Demonstration & Step-by-Step Walkthrough by The Lukin Center
Polyvagal Theory explained. Somatic Consent Engagement System and Social Engagement System by Matthias Schwenteck
End of Life:
Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End by Atul Gawande
Personal Development:
After the Tears: Helping Adult Children of Alcoholics Heal Their Childhood Trauma by Jane Middelton-Moz and Lorie Dwinell
The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings on Authenticity, Connection and Courage by Brené Brown
The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown
Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation by Daniel J. Siegel
Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain
Rising Strong: The Reckoning. The Rumble. The Revolution. by Brené Brown
TED Talks and Videos:
Boundaries featuring Brené Brown, on Empathy, Compassion and Boundaries by The Work of the People
Rethinking infidelity, a talk for anyone who has ever loved | Esther Perel by TED
The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self-Compassion | Kristin Neff at TEDxCentennialParkWomen by TEDx Talks
How Couples Sustain a Strong Sexual Connection for a Lifetime | Emily Nagoski | TEDxFergusonLibrary by TEDx Talks
Millennials and Life Planning:
The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now by Meg Jay
Designing Your Life: How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans
Addiction and Recovery:
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction by Dr Gabor Maté
Mental Health Links
Anxiety, American Psychological Association
Panic Disorder, American Psychological Association
National Center for PTSD, U.S. Department of Veteran Affairs
Domestic Abuse / Sexual Abuse Resource:
NEWS, 24/7 support in Napa, CA,
Suicide and Crisis Resources:
988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, a resource website and link to connect with 988
Napa County Mental Health Crisis Hotline: (707) 253-4711